Exploring desire

Being sexually and intamitely liberated is a new space that I decided to finally just take by it’s neck. Finding comfort in singleness after experiencing love for the first time seems like the biggest switch up even when I’ve been on that side of the fence before.
It’s taking lots of internal balance & faith in this path of love and the resurrection of my confidence & personal beauty to remain sane.

Thinking about what it takes for me to be a sexually liberated being is a process of two things ; loving my body enough to be comfortable to allow myself and others to explore it with pleasure and love And having belief that my love isn’t for everyone, and that with care and intimacy also comes respect. So if someone doesn’t respect you they don’t deserve you and how will I know what I like if I don’t know my body ?. Both of these elements allow me to explore, yet also control my sexual liberation. 
I know - that may be the first time that you’ve heard/read those three words together in once sentence; Sex , liberation, & control? - How do they even coexist as one ?
I practice a few things that I’m going to touch on, but first things first, i’m not a hater of the process that any other person may take to navigate their sexual liberation, as long as it is universally healthy for them and their partner(s) then that’s all that matters ;
Anyway, here’s what works for me to balance out my sex .

• Maintaining confidence & composure 

If you look good you feel good, right ? 
This old statement is so true and I never really wanted to give it any credit, but when you know for a fact that you look good and no one can tell you otherwise that energy of confidence is an aroma that attracts strength and confidence back to you. And to be honest that’s what I want - A partner who takes care of their appearance in a way that allows them to feel confident and well feed .
Now - Its 100% facts that exterior care in any dose will not take heed of the interior, but it is pleasing to like how you look and to be assured that the attraction will be reciprocated by another person.

Overall, by finally reaching a point where I would like energy of attraction cycled back into my space, I really wanted to hunker down and place more time and effort on the external as a second to the internal preparation of re-opening my heart. 

Rose quartz 

For the growth and regrowth of love and trust ; new love & gentleness 

Lotus Flower 

For self - regeneration, enlightenment, and rebirth.

• Pleasuring thy self ( aka get that nut )

Sighhh , the topic that makes some people literally cringe and squirm . 
Women speaking on self pleasure is finally becoming a topic of conversation that is being held in mainstream media today , yet even in this big 2020 the idea of sex talk not being “lady like” is a belief that some refuse to let go. 
Despite the politics of things , I believe it’s uber important for one to explore and understand their very own bodies before allowing another person to navigate their space ; I mean yes , to explore completely in different territory is one that requires a partner , but I would like you to really take the time to explore all the options there are to self pleasure. Seriously, if you haven’t even purchased your first sex toy, vibrator, dildo, etc and reclaimed your nut ,
​NOW is the time to get on it !

• Call of action 

Having a little buddy in that top drawer has saved my life from the many ergues that pop up where I really want to feel pleasure from another person , even when I know that it may not reflect positively on my mental and emotions.
This is where that control comes into my practice of liberation; because personally, No matter what I attempt to feed into my head in the moments of heighten libido, casual sex doesn’t allow me to have healthy emotional control. I prefer an intense connection with someone who is invested in our partnership... So lil buddy ( in this case , a purple rabbit stimulator ) HAS to be charged and ready to go to avoid entertaining those “WYD Big Head?” texts that somehow seem to pop up just at the perfect times .

Me maintaining composure

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DO YOU FIND SELF PLEASURE TO BE A NORM IN YOUR ROUTINE ?
WHAT ARE YOUR GO-TO TOYS?
IF YOU FIND MASTURBATION TO FEEL SLIGHTLY OUT OF BODY , WHAT ARE SOME CONCERNS THAT LEAVE YOU FEELING THIS WAY ?